Dawn Patterson, our Director of the Hope + Sisterhood — Uganda, continues to write about her trip to Uganda:
As we visited one sister in her hair salon, a young mother sat with her baby while having her hair braided by another young girl. Her daughter was beautiful and of course, we couldn’t help but smile and entertain the child. The mother did not speak English but the girl braiding her hair did. The mother spoke and the girl translated: “She wants you to take her baby.” I would love to say this is the first time I’ve heard these words spoken in Uganda, but that is not the case. Even after we left and moved to another shop to purchase fabric, the girl followed us and continued to say, “She wants you to take her baby.”
I can’t presume to know what was stirring in that mother’s heart. I don’t know the hardships she faces in her life or the obstacles she will have to overcome. But I do know that a myth is being perpetuated in the minds of mothers here that their babies are better off in another country….in another family. This can not be the answer. This is not the solution to poverty or desperation.
We have to work to change their mindset and ours. We must empower these women. The financial commitment it takes to literally change a life here costs just 4 percent of an average Ugandan adoption. FOUR PERCENT. If you are a mother, ask yourself what it would take for you to give up your child. Can you feel the ache in your heart? I know I can. As you feel that ache, if you knew that for $45 per month for one year a mother could be prevented from feeling like her only option was to give away her child…..would you do it?
I believe, with every fiber of my being that adoption is necessary. There are, and will always be children who need forever families. However, it is not the only answer. Far from it. Please consider pouring into the life of a woman in Uganda. Help empower her and give her HOPE. PRESERVE FAMILIES. Allow yourself to be used by God to transform a life. The HOPE + Sisterhood has changed my life and opened my eyes and I am humbled that God even allows me to walk along side these beautiful women.