A guest post, by Jenny Clark
She is four years old. Her name is Leah Grace and she is the daughter of my friend Deb (the one I just went to Africa with). She contracted HIV through no fault of her own. She takes her meds every day like a good girl. Because of those meds, and the love of her family, she is a perfectly healthy normal little girl.
While in Uganda, I wiped her snot, drank after her, shared food with her, helped her in the bathroom….all of the things I would do with my own daughter. About halfway through the week we had some friends come and stay with us for a few nights, which caused us to have to do a little shuffle of the sleeping arrangements. I am no stranger to having kids in my bed and all up in my business while I sleep, so I didn’t think twice when Leah Grace wanted to bunk with me.
But then right before I fell asleep, 1987 came back to haunt me ……for a split second.
What if she has a stomach virus and throws up on me during the night?
Is HIV present in urine? What if she wets the bed?
She got a cut on her nose today…what if it opens up while she is asleep?
The truth is sometimes ugly, and I really don’t want to admit it…..especially since I am on staff with Project Hopeful, and our whole objective is to shine light on the facts about HIV and to advocate for children who live with it.
But then I realized, that if I KNOW the facts, and 1987 still crept in to my mind for a split second, how would my friends react in the same situation? How would I have reacted a couple of years ago?
Please friends, for the sake of this sweet girl and so many others like her, educate yourself!
Here are the fact about HIV…..most of them are very straightforward and the only thing you can do with them is read/understand them and help educate others……
….but 2 of these facts are things we can CHANGE…..YOU can change….right now…..today………….can you find them? Will you?
#14: There is no reason to fear that a mosquito or other insect could transmit HIV from one person to another through HIV-infected blood left on its mouth parts. Studies conducted by the CDC and elsewhere have shown no evidence of HIV transmission from mosquitoes or any other insects–even in areas where there are many cases of AIDS and large populations of mosquitoes. Lack of such outbreaks, despite intense efforts to detect them, supports the conclusion that HIV is not transmitted by insects.
#15: There are no documented cases of HIV being transmitted during participation in sports. The very low risk of transmission during sports participation would involve sports with direct body contact in which bleeding might be expected to occur. If someone is bleeding, their participation in the sport should be interrupted until the wound stops bleeding and is both antiseptically cleaned and securely bandaged. There is no risk of HIV transmission through sports activities where bleeding does not occur.
#16: No incident of food being contaminated with HIV-infected blood or semen has been reported to CDC. Furthermore, CDC has received no reports of HIV infection resulting from eating food, including condiments. HIV does not live long outside the body. Even if small amounts of HIV-infected blood or semen was consumed, exposure to the air, heat from cooking, and stomach acid would destroy the virus. Therefore, there is no risk of contracting HIV from eating food.
#17: Many scientific studies have been conducted to examine all the possible ways that HIV is transmitted. These studies have NOT shown HIV to be transmitted through air, water, insects, or casual contact.



I appreciated your post a lot. I support and volunteer with a non-profit that does research around HIV/AIDS and still some of the information you laid out about transmitting HIV I was ignorant of.
I read your post a few times and one phrase made me uncomfortable. “She contracted HIV through no fault of her own.” Just being four, I can’t imagine any circumstance where she would have gotten HIV and people who blame her. The phrase creates an interesting differentiation. If your post was about a teenage girl who had gotten HIV through unprotected sex with her boyfriend, would my fellow readers and I react differently?
Not being terribly religious anymore colors my outlook but it gives me pause that some Christians have an easier time rallying around people who contracted HIV through “no fault of [their] own”. I imagine that you used the phrase just as part of the story of who this person is. If our concern is to be for “the least of these” though, shouldn’t we fight to feel as deep a compassion for the one who contract HIV through fault of their own also?
*any circumstance where she would have gotten HIV and people who blame her for it.
Thanks for the post..very informative…but with the same sex marriage issues here in the states so front page I would have been a little more discerning in the name of your post…It ranked up there with the song “I kissed a girl & I liked it” that says hey why not try this..I am glad I read it to know you ment coming along side people who are hurting verses…well you know where my head went…thanks again for the post
Hey Paul…..I totally agree. We should have the same compassion for someone who contracts any disease whether there is fault involved or not. However, I think the 1987 mentality that we are trying to do away with in regards to HIV/AIDS in particular is very “fault” oriented. People used to associate this disease exclusively with people who contracted it by making a poor choice….whether unprotected sex, drug use etc. and the reality now is very different. But, Lord willing, the more people educate themselves about the disease, the less we will need to point out that there is no “fault” involved.
Arlene, I understand where you are coming from! I personally have a tendency to title my blog posts in such a way that causes people to want to read and see what it is about. Yes….the title is a little racy, but when i originally posted it on my personal blog, there was a picture of Leah included which would immediately do away with any assumptions…..but for some reason the picture didn’t show up here. Ultimately I would never want to offend anyone, but, the facts do no good if no one ever reads them…..so if a slightly racy title does the trick…….
I LOVE that you are spreading awareness of this! So many kids eligible for adoption are HIV positive and there are so many fears and misconceptions. What a fantastically personal way to educate